This summer John and I will celebrate 49 years of marriage. It seems to have gone by way too fast, but with 5 married kids and 21 grand children we haven’t had much time to notice the pace. We are simply thankful. Today we are most grateful for our sweet companionship.
No, our marriage isn’t perfect. We still fight and we still have to forgive–frequently. But the years of pressing together through challenges and blessings have produced a stronger blend of oneness.
Recently I jotted down 8 ingredients that have helped me as a wife to grow in my marriage.
1. Recognize that no man can love you as much as you want to be loved.
Only God can. Run to him first. Spend time in His word and in prayer. It will relieve the pressure on your marriage.
2. Have a few close girl friends with whom you can share your heart.
These should be women who are for your marriage, always pushing you to Christ and towards your husband.
3. Refuse the temptation to “emotionally withdraw”.
And you will be tempted–many times. Recognize it, resist it and instead do whatever it takes to grow closer to one another.
4. Pray daily for your husband
Pray for God to bless him, for him to know how much God loves him, for his professional needs, and for God to give him some Christian guy friends.
5. Make time with him a priority.
Put him before the kids. Establish a regular date and keep it.
6. Hit the “delete button” on your mental list of the things he does wrong.
Instead ask God to remind you of one trait you appreciate in him every day. Occasionally tell him. This is your daily marriage vitamin.
7. Do fun, silly, new things together and nurture laughter.
(See photo below for reference)
8. Be quick to ask for forgiveness and to forgive, even if you don’t feel like it or want to.
Healing takes time but the healing process begins with forgiveness.