Faith is serious, and it’s good that we approach it that way. But you know, sometimes what we actually need in our lives is to lighten up and be a little less serious!
Have you found yourself short with others when they don’t come through as you expected? Ticked because your husband lost his phone, wallet, favorite pen, or car keys — again? Irritated with a child because she didn’t do what you asked her to, even though you reminded her twice? Or disappointed because the event you planned didn’t come off exactly as you wanted it to. Or…
I’m sure you can add to the list.

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I’ve realized that I can get easily frustrated — even grumpy and unpleasant — when things don’t go the way I want them to. When others don’t come through the way I think they should. When I don’t accomplish what I intended to.
Can I be God today?
The reality is that I want everything to turn out the way I think it should. I want to be in control. And this is mostly in the little things.
If I’m really honest I find that I’m bordering on wanting to be God. To fix and direct everyone. To make things right — even myself. Did you notice all the “I’s” here? Oh, the subtle dangers of self-centered thinking! Life isn’t all about me. I am not God and maybe, just maybe, I need the freedom to relax and let Him do His job.
Our culture causes frustration and leaves little time for healthy humor. We rush from one meeting to another, one soccer field to another, one project to complete to another. We watch the news and feel overwhelmed with sadness and anger. Our society feeds stress. And keeps life from being fun.
I feel way too responsible. Part of a woman’s sense of responsibility comes from our nurturing nature. As moms we have to be responsible. It’s in our DNA and part of our job as a parent. But sometimes my sense of personal responsibility crosses over to the realm of control. And I need to let go a little bit and remember that I’m not ultimately in control. God is. (Some of us need to step up and be more responsible but that’s not what I’m talking about here.)
I need to be a little more laid back. I need God to infuse a bit of lightheartedness into my daily schedule.
John and I lightening things up!
Lighten me up!
So here are some things I’m trying in order to lighten up:
First, I am asking, “Lord please lighten me up. You have the power to do this. I cannot fix myself.”
Then I’m choosing to:
- Do something spontaneous.
- Look at life through “laid back” lenses.
- Choose laughter over irritation, immediately-in the moment.
- See interruptions as opportunities instead of inconveniences.
- Open myself to God’s doing something fun and new in my life.
- Pray for a fresh sense of humor in my life and in my marriage. Laugh with my husband.
- When my plans get interrupted, let my first reaction be, “Oh well,” instead of frustration.
- Decide to give up hurrying. Move more slowly.
- Eliminate something from my “to do list” for today.
- Hang out with friends who make me laugh.
These are little things. Too often we assume that we have to make big changes. But the reality is that it is the little changes in our daily lives that may ultimately result in significant transformations.
As we approach this season of year-end events and extra commitments, it is helpful to ask ourselves, what will I do to lighten up, to inject a sense of fun into my life that will overflow into the center of my home?
I’d love to her your ideas.
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I’m a new reader here! Hopped over from Proverbs 31 Women.
I need to lighten up soo much; it’s the number one thing my husband has asked of me (when I recently asked what he would like me to change or do for him). I’m a mom of 3 littles, and I can be so driven to get the next thing done… and then realize at the end of the day that it wasn’t more than survival, and it has to be done all over again the next day. Needless to say, I’ve been discouraged! And things like playing with my children seem like a ginormous waste of time when there’s dishes to do and walls to scrub (I can never get to the walls, so they’re just reminders of things on my I-wish-I -had-a-hardcore-housecleaner to-do list ?).
Susan,
Thank you I needed that teminder
When my now adult girls were still in 6-12th grades And I was teaching full time plus had church responsibilities I heard an idea to make a “ not to do” list – a “ to-don’t” list really. And I didn’t just put on mine not to hurry or gripe, but actual tasks. Somehow it was a
Relief to see all the things I wasn’t going to do – mind games?
Thanks so much Diane! I love this idea and am going to use it myself! Warmly, Susan